Love is most likely the greatest gift you can ever receive, whether conditional or unconditional. It doesn’t require anything from you, and can spring upon you unexpectedly. Unfortunately, love can be taken away just as quick. Love isn’t a right, but something you have to work very hard on maintaining and once lost, it’s very hard to ever get back. In some ways, love is closely connected to trust. They both behave in the same way, and both have to be earned in order for the flame to burn.
More often than not, love takes different shapes, and changes over time. None of which are less meaningful than the other. Love is something to be cherished, and in many ways respected. One of the hardest things to say is; I love you. This is funny, as it should be the easiest thing ever to tell someone close to you how much you like them. The fact that it’s said with some effort makes these words more powerful though. Humans are made to share things and experiences with one another and to love. We are happy when we have someone in our life to love and share our lives with. When that person disappears, they leave a void, an empty space which we try to fill again.
I never believed in love at first sight until it happened to me. I didn’t even realize what happened at that particular moment when our eyes met, but looking back I can see it clearly as it happened yesterday. Unfortunately, we never got the chance to get to know each other, but he was on my mind for months. I had fallen hopelessly in love with someone whom I will always believe could have been the one. No other person came even close and I stopped searching for that special person. I somehow lived a separate life in my mind, where I met him again, had children and lived happily ever after. As time moved on, and the memories of our time together faded, I got to know someone else. Parallel to me getting to know this person, I let my past fade away.
I believe that part of me will always love that guy, but as I had to live my life without him, I managed to let someone else in. Once I had someone else to focus on and to love, I could let my passion for this other person slip in to the back of my mind.
It’s very hard to let someone go completely, but with the help of others, time is a great heeler. Every experience of your life makes you who you are. By letting someone go, you grow a bit as you take a part of that person with you