Love is a complicated thing, and it can lead to great joy. Ideally, it is about kindness, passion and sharing. It is also about trust and respect.
But, humans make mistakes, and some people are more compatible than others. Love between two people can change. Sometimes it grows, while other times it diminishes.
And, unlike the lyrics of many pop songs, love cannot always conquer all. You may find that your love for someone else is not being returned. Or, you may be in a loving relationship that is not practical due to differences in core values or expectations.
No matter what the reasons, most people face a time when a relationship with someone they love must end. At that time, they must let go, no matter how painful.
Below are some suggestions on how to let go of someone you love.
* Be honest.
You want to end a relationship with honesty. That does not mean you should tell someone all of their faults. But, what it does mean is that you need to tell that person why you must let go of the relationship, and with clarity.
You may think that this will hurt the other person, but you will cause them more pain if you leave them hoping you may return or wondering what went wrong.
* Stay firm with your decision.
Once you are ready to let go of a person, you must be committed to this decision. That means that you need to end the relationship, and then act in ways that support the closing of it.
This means that you should no longer phone that person or text them. Prolonging a relationship is such a slow and dying death. Instead, it is best for you to cut your ties completely. That way, there is not room for mixed messages or reconciliations that are not really meant to be.
* Try to be kind.
Kindness is a quality that people should strive to display. Yet, sadly it is often lacking in this world. Ending something that was once special is upsetting. The more gently you can handle this situation, the better you and the other person will be.
* Do not fool yourself.
If someone breaks up with you, do not fool yourself and think that the person will come back to you. Chances are, they will not. So the best thing you can do to help start your process of letting go and moving on is to refuse to kid yourself. If someone says they no longer want to be with you, then that is what they mean.
* Do not say something you will regret.
People are often haunted by things they said that they later regret. The problem is that once you have said it, you cannot take it back. Letting go of someone is terrible, but it will be more painful if you have memories tied to a breakup that you truly regret.
* End a relationship in person.
If you have ever had someone break up with you by phone or email, you know the anger and insult that then follow. When letting go of someone you have loved, show that person enough respect to do so by person.
* Stay busy.
Once a relationship has ended, stay as busy as you can so that you will be less likely to obsess over your lost love. Force yourself to get out of bed and shower. Exercise. Spend time with friends. Walk the dog. The more you can keep moving and living, the sooner you can emotionally let go and fill the void that is left behind.
In conclusion, finding love is magic, but losing love can be excrutiating. All people at some point are faced with having to let go of someone they love. Handle it the best way that you can, and remember that one day you will heal. It may just take some time.
