Top ten ways to tell if a person is lying
Have you ever told a lie? If you answered no, chances are you just told another lie! A lie is defined as, a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood. Lying is well sown into the human psyche and well documented through out human history. As a matter of fact, the fist story of man and woman in the bible is based on lying to God [Adam and Eve]. If we take look at any novel from any period, we will find deception and lies directly at the heart of the thickening plot and just about every T.V. show or movie is based around a lie. A Cornell University professor recently finished a study that counted how frequently 30 of his students lied. When the study was done he found out that they lied about 26 percent of the time. The point being is that lying is as natural an epidemic as there is! There are also body language signs used by police and security officials to tell when someone is lying.
Here are my top ten:
1. A person who is lying often avoids making eye contact.
2. They will touch their face, throat, mouth or scratch their nose or behind their ear.
3. Their timing will be off between emotional gestures and their words. I.E. when someone says “This is a great gift!” and then smiles after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.
4. Crossing of arms and/or legs.
5. Fast talking
6. Inconsistencies in story.
7. Acting nervous or fidgety
8. Consider why they would lie to you
9. Increased blinking
10. Read the eyes
There are several ways to tell if someone is lying, especially to the trained eye; for example, reading the eyes. We’ve all heard the expression, “The eyes never lie”. Using the technique supplied by an alternative form of psychology called (NLP) Neuro-Linguistic Programming, we now have a reliable-tested system that can predict what representational system a person is accessing that is determined by the movement of the eye. The system is called, “Eye accessing cues”.
A=Auditory or sound
K=Kinesthetic or feeling/Emotion
(Eyes up & to their left) (Vr) = Visually remembered or an image that you have seen before.
(Eyes up & to their right) (Vc) = Visually constructed image or constructing an image that they have not seen before.
(Eyes move directly to their left) (Ar) = Auditory remembered or hearing a familiar sound or voice.
(Eyes move directly to their right) (Ac) = Auditory constructed or constructed a sound or voice they’ve never heard before.
(Eyes down & to their left) (Ad) = Auditory dialog or listening to their own internal dialog.
(Eyes down & to their right) (K) = Kinesthetic or experiencing a touch or emotion.
When asking someone a question such as, “Where were you last night,” we can determine if they are being truthful by the movement of their eyes. If the eyes move up and to the right, the person is accessing the creative side of the brain and visually constructing or making up n image. This tells us that the person is lying. On the contrary, if a person looks up and to the left, they are remembering or picturing an image of where they were the night before. If they look up-left and then up-right before answering the question, chances are they are mixing a little of the truth and lies. This can also be determined by looking directly to the left, which indicates auditory remembering or directly to the right, which indicates auditory constructing.
Since we can’t make anyone tell us the truth and don’t always really want to hear it anyway, the next best thing is to be able to determine when someone is lying. The obvious question is: Why do we lie? The answer: because the people who are best able to lie have an advantage over others. As humans, we must fit into a close-knit social system to succeed, yet our primary aim is still to look out for ourselves above all others. Lying to ourselves-a talent built into our brains-helps us accept our own fraudulent behavior.