There tends to be a lot of fear surrounding love when people have been hurt. Pain makes us short sighted and with elephant-like memories. We hang on to negative things for a long time and then they colour our view…
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August 30, 2015 Friends and Peers
Sex in a friendship – Is it natural? It is neither natural or unnatural, being a very tricky question especially in these days of ‘friends with benefits’. I guess it is what the two ‘friends’ desire. But mixing sex and…
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Broken Heart or Broken Bones, Which do You Prefer? I prefer a broken heart any time as that pain and hurt will only last as long as I want it to last, whereas a broken bone could incapacitate me for…
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It is not that difficult to tell whether a man is sexually attracted to you because he will only do certain things if he is smitten. There are also tons of subtle hints in his behaviour but there are seven…
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Q. Should I give myself time to heal before jumping to another relationship? I just broke up with my boyfriend, and there are others telling me that they like me, and one saying he loves me. He felt stupid telling…
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Relationships with people who cling are never enjoyable affairs for either party because they consist of some well known patterns of behaviour of which there are four. First of all is a lack of self love. People who cling to…
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Q. If you are either married or in a serious relationship, would you consider it to be cheating if your spouse or significant other was engaging in an online relationship with someone else? This would include chatting, online sex, etc….
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How Men and Women Use Communication in Relationships In a nutshell, anger, power struggles, jealousy and distrust are all part and parcel of relationships because the sexes seem to be at odds with each other. Two entirely different genders are…
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What makes a relationship work? There are three main things that make a relationship work and everything else flows from them: First is expectations. This is the most important aspect of any partnership. Expectations should be kept as low as…
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There’s no rocket science to being a better husband (or wife/partner). Everyone in this world desires to be significant appreciated and respected – that’s all. If you can make your wife feel all of those three elements, you will be…
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Understanding Why People Remain in Abusive Relationships Any relationship has its own cost/benefit ratio for each individual. As long as the benefits of the relationship like good company, attention, increased status, material gains, job satisfaction or sexual satisfaction outweigh the…
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In one word, NO! It is natural for the relatives of a patient to want them alive for as long as possible. If we truly love another we do not wish to see them die, or to suffer unduly. We…
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At some point, about two to four years into the partnership (but it could be earlier, if a child is on the scene) disillusion creeps in. This is the beginning of the end for most relationships as they begin the…
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Fifteen minutes is not a long time to assess whether someone likes you or not, but if you are instinctive like me, you can sense almost within the first five minutes how that date is going to turn out, or…
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It is very important to know yourself otherwise you could be ambiguous in your choice of mate. Some people may say they want an independent-thinking, self-directed partner, who is successful in his own career’. In reality, they want someone who…
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In essence, powerful men like John Ensign, Mark Sanford and Elliot Spitzer (John Major and John Prescott in Britain) cheat because they come to see it almost as a right. Having the power to do almost everything else, they extend…
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August 5, 2015 Friends and Peers
The most important quality in a relationship is reciprocity, or give and take – working in tandem together. It focuses on the positive elements of the union, reduces potential conflict and is also the surest way of mending relationships. Evatt…
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While it can be a common experience finding love at work, as it is convenient for regular contact, dating colleagues can present a threat to professional and organisational effectiveness due to the negative impact on both the participants and other…
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Q. Why can’t a lady see the “real” man before they get too involved in the relationship or before she marries? Is she looking through rose-colored glasses or do both parties change? Why so much divorces after being so “in…
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Attraction between women and men is a completely random activity. However, there are certain patterns or trends within it. There are four main things that draw women to men and, depending on the primary needs of the individual woman, they…
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Many people in relationships find it difficult to talk to one another, perhaps through a lack of social skills, and women, in particular, often find it hard to talk to men either because of their upbringing, their inability to stick…
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Q. Basically, there is a female where my boyfriend works who is after him. She talks to him on msn, xbox live etc. she randomly texts him, she flirts with him but he can’t see it. She has walked for…
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Often we meet someone who seems really exciting. We begin to chat to them, we take an interest in them, but, somehow, everything falls flat as we slowly realise that we are really getting nowhere fast, despite the best intentions…
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July 28, 2015 Friends and Peers
There are 5 key stages to any relationship between two people seeking love:1. Selection2. Besotment3. Familiarisation4. Alignment5. Reinforcement Relationships break up because people are unskilled in dealing with the different stages of getting to know one another and then bottle…
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July 28, 2015 Friends and Peers
The Worst Part of a Relationship – The War of Wills There is danger of damage to the psyche because the early part of any relationship, called the familiarisation stage, is basically a war of wills. Each individual, being used…
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July 28, 2015 Friends and Peers
The hallmarks of the mature alignment stage in any relationship are stability, understanding, achievement in both home and work, full acceptance of the partnership and above all friendship. “It is not the lack of love, but a lack of friendship…
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How do I get a guy to call me back? Well….er…you don’t! You tell him to ‘bugger off’ instead, and wave him on briskly. If you give your number to someone, or you call them at least once and they…
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Does having the ring make you feel better? Q. I worked with a girl at the bank last year who was having some minor problems with her boyfriend but who seemed much happier once he gave her a ring. Would…
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July 22, 2015 Friends and Peers
Q. Ok, I heard a lot of strange rumors going on about my boyfriend and my best friend. People were saying that they slept together, but I don’t know if it’s true or not. My friend told me she didn’t…
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July 17, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Marriages are failing in a big way because of a basic lack of trust in them, the increased choices that are available to everyone and the costs associated with divorce. However, it seems that three other common reasons are helping…
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