November 22, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
The main rules for success from dating to marriage is: DON’T CHANGE THE RULES! It is amazing what transformation in a couple the two little words ‘MY husband’ and MY wife” can bring. There they were, getting on fantastically during…
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November 20, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
This is always a difficult question because we all have individual thresholds for accepting pain and discomfort. However, many people put up with such unhappiness simply because of fear of the consequences of leaving and the sheer convenience of staying…
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November 6, 2015 Communication
There is never a good way to tell your man you love someone else because anything you say means hurt. So, regardless of how the words are couched in gentleness, sensitivity and compassion, it is still going to hurt and…
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November 6, 2015 Communication
So, in any relationship, how do you get from angst and frustration to accommodation, from conflict to resolution? You set up realistic expectations of the relationship. But that is not so easy because, in order to do this, you have…
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Do you believe in marriage or a live-in relationship? I think it depends on one’s culture and perspective. If one is from a culture where marriage is seen as very important, an essential part of family life, then one would…
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Any relationship begins with attraction. But that’s where the difficulty lies, because attraction is a nebulous process with more facets than a cut diamond. Many people complain of not being able to attract others, or to find a suitable partner….
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A Guide to Surviving Your Relationship Surviving relationships in our technological world is not easy when the rules of engagement are becoming more uncertain and lines of communication are being blurred by dramatic social changes, particularly for women. There are…
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November 4, 2015 Communication
There is a little saying that the loudest voices attract the most attention and there is a lot of truth in it. Learning to ask for what you want is a skill that takes time but is guaranteed to get…
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Chemistry and the Physical Factor in Attraction To find the basis of genuine attraction, one has to look at what is operating between two people on any given day; what I would call the PIE factors – the combination of…
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10 Essential Tools of Attraction There have been many suggestions from various sources relating to boosting your personal appeal. No doubt, attraction cannot be prescribed in any kind of formula, but there are essential elements that make us more or…
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The First Quality of a Successful Relationship: Love So you have found your ideal person, and have started your relationship or got married. Fine so far, but how do you keep it going? Better still, how do you ensure maximum…
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The TOP 6 Things Your Relationship Should Have to Succeed Some time ago, after I met the guy I called the ‘love of my life’, and labelled him ‘11% short of heaven’ (because of the score we kept getting on…
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Q.If you love a person to the extreme, and he or she doesn’t love you, do you have the right to still love that particular person? A. Everyone has the right to love whomever, and at whatever time, in their…
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The Biggest Key to a Successful Relationship: Your Expectations It is very easy to have preconceived expectations of your partner. After all, we all want this ‘perfect’ being to share our life, often forgetting that we are highly imperfect ourselves!…
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Another 6 Tips for a Successful Relationship Having covered the essential Top 6 elements in the best relationships (communication, attraction/chemistry, interest/attention, honesty/trust, humour/positivity and reciprocity), it is now time to look at the next 6 which are important but can…
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Dealing with the Besotment Stage in a Relationship All relationships begin in earnest with what I call the besotment’ stage which develops this important connection. Most love songs have been dedicated to, or inspired by, this first crucial stage in…
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AVOID THESE 3 MINEFIELDS: A. Money Problems. This is the perennial problem of our life. How to make ends meet or have a good life. Problems arise either because there is insufficient money or one party wants to spend it…
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THE FIRST KEY STEPS: In trying to find that elusive ideal soulmate, the first step is to work out what you want. What are you looking for, in general? You cannot be too prescriptive, otherwise good people will be ruled…
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This thing we call love, which is often misunderstood, is most likely to emerge from a common connection between two strangers. It then blossoms out of mutual interest, mutual respect, mutual aims and a close friendship. An intentional strategy for…
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Imagine a boy at college has a huge crush on you. He catches up with you in the hallways and keeps talking to you. He also pretends he needs the homework so he could find an excuse to sit near…
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We tend to have a rosy vision of love coupled with unrealistic expectations of the relationship which it creates. Some of us believe that love is enough to see us through the bad times and that, if people love us,…
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October 28, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Recognising Your Role In a Disagreement Most of the problems surrounding the absence of support in relationships come from ambiguities relating to personal roles and obligations. To prevent this, you need to identify your own role in the communication process….
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Q. I like this guy who is my co-employee.. He’s not that good looking, but he’s smart and really sweet to all. Every time he comes to my desk my heart is really happy. I’m afraid of what I really…
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Q. My husband recently began to talk to a work colleague on his mobile phone where I saw three calls registered. I did ask him not to talk to her when I first met her. He has acknowledged talking to…
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October 21, 2015 Friends and Peers
My fiancee has more male friends than female. Should I to talk to her about it? Q. I am a little insecure about the fact that my fiance has many male friends. She hangs around with friends but there are…
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Can we ever teach anyone to love us the way we want to be loved? Perhaps not because true love does not come from others first. It comes from ourselves as the foundation. The the saddest part of being with…
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Q. Okay I know he’s my hubby and I know he loves me, but he never says it out loud. It’s just not him to do that. But just now he called from work he’s having a rough day and…
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Speed dating is a great idea because people can have access to far more potential dates in a short time than they would otherwise. It makes sense to have the right questions if you wish to select the ones who…
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What are the ingredients that make the ultimate romantic experience possible? What are some folks missing which prevent them from actually reaching that highly-desired goal at any time in their lives? Well, it could be four crucial things, actually:1. Self-Love2….
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Knowing that the person is “The One” is a very individual experience. No two people’s experience in love will be the same so it is difficult to apply any general theory to falling in love or recognising the ‘Chosen One’….
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