May 17, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Theoretical Background of Marriage Counseling What is marriage counseling? Is marriage counseling different from individual counseling? The answer depends upon whom you ask. For the most part, marriage counseling is different from individual counseling because marriage counseling involves a family…
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April 14, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Why do people marry? Historically, the answer probably included some reference to social expectations or economic survival and both were certainly reasons in the past. However, the twentieth century witnessed many changes in the reasons why people marry. Social expectations…
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How guys think? Some might ask if men ever think. Since I am a guy I cannot agree that men never think. But, men do have a tendency to think differently than women. One must proceed cautiously because we should…
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“Gratitude is a duty which ought to be paid, but which none have a right to expect.” Jean-Jacques Rousseau Everyone loves to know their efforts are appreciated. And, as Rousseau recognized, gratitude is due those who serve others selflessly. What…
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Attachment Styles Attachment styles come from John Bowlby’s and Mary Ainsworth’s Attachment Theory. Attachment Theory shares the psychodynamic view that relationship orientation develops as early as the first three years of life and the patterns continue across the lifespan. Attachment…
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January 18, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
When counseling couples, finances and friction are often inseparable. Couples often find themselves locked in chronic battles with each other over financial management issues. The situation never seems to end. The good news is that couples can mitigate financial friction…
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December 23, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
Infidelity is one of the ultimate warning signs that a relationship is in distress. Infidelity can be the end of a relationship or the couple could decide the relationship is worth the effort to fix. Infidelity can certainly result from…
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ATTACHMENT DEVELOPMENT AND INJURY IN STEPFAMILIES The challenges of creating a stepfamily can be daunting as children and stepparents are forced to create a relationship with each other. A primary concern is often the desire on the part of the…
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November 29, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
Why do some married couples seem to enjoy their relationship after spending years together while others act as if they are in prison? The answer frequently involves marital satisfaction. Marital satisfaction is a key contributor to a lasting marriage. Marital…
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Marriage counseling involves some systemic approach by default. Marriage is a complex system of relationships between spouses, between spouses and children, and with the extended family. One option in marriage counseling is solution-focused brief therapy (SFBT). SFBT offers a unique…
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How can someone know if he or she is in a bad relationship? One of the first steps is to determine the definition of “bad.” What constitutes a “bad” relationship may vary between individuals. However, the common sense description of…
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THE SIMILARITIES BETWEEN THE ATTACHMENT STYLES OF BIOLOGICAL PARENTS AND DAUGHTERS What is attachment theory? Do the attachment styles of parents influence the attachment styles of children? Why does attachment theory matter? WHAT IS ATTACHMENT THEORY? Attachment theory grew out…
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When should someone seek family counseling? The answer to the question is not easy because each family is different. Unlike individual counseling, family counseling focuses on the family dynamics at work in the family unit. Family dynamics involves the relationship…
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August 10, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
What is the best way to respond to a cheating husband? The opinions are as numerous as there are personal websites and blogs devoted to the topic. The statistics of how many husbands cheat vary, though the percentage in most…
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July 19, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
Why do marriages break up? A quick Internet search will likely reveal an endless string of websites from organizations to personal blogs devoted to the topic. The fact is there are numerous reasons why marriages fail. Part of the problem…
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