When a man or woman gets out of an abusive relationship their need for positive support is great. To reduce the risk of their return to the abuser, they must believe that there is something outside for them to strive…
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Emotional abuse is not as hard to recognize as many people would think. This type of abuse doesn’t leave any visible scarring but sometimes words hurt much worse and last much longer then any physical harm a person may endure….
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When a man attacks a woman the entire act is an act of violence and power. Most attackers want to control whomever they attack and have usually picked a woman they feel will not fight back. Learning to defend yourself…
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Violence occurring in a domestic setting, be it physical, mental or emotional does severe and lasting damage to the victim and the family unit. Usually the term “Domestic Violence” is used interchangeably with “Spousal Abuse”, which although is a type…
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Most people know that domestic violence can lead to low self-esteem.  However, this can also work in reverse, with a person who has low self esteem being more vulnerable to abuse.  This is why many people will get caught in…
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We live in a dangerous world. Violence is not new, but there are always new ways to carry it out. In general danger is increasing, because life is more complex than ever. There are more ways to commit crimes, and…
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Watching a friend of yours suffering in an abusive relationship is never easy, but for me, it is nearly impossible to bear. I have been through more than one abusive relationship in my life, and when I see the signs…
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The violence and emotional damage associated with rape leads us to believe that it should always be reported to the proper authorities. However a large percentage of women never report being raped. Why is this? What could possibly keep these…
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Spousal Rape The words “spouse” and “rape” make no sense to most people, especially among Christian communities, where women are taught to submit to their husbands. Many Christian women believe that to be submissive to their husband requires that they…
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We all know that rape is a horrible, violent crim. What most people do not understand is that reporting a rape is something that many people chose not to do. Reporting a rape is a very horrific experience and often can…
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Odds are that you know someone or are friends with people that know someone who lives in an abusive home. Women who continue to involve themselves with abusive men. Why do they do this? The obvious direction to go after…
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Domestic violence is one of those subjects that many people do not want to acknowledge, let alone discuss. For many years it was swept under the rug and only talked about in hushed tones. Both the abuser and the victim…
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Women in domestic violence relationships are often questioned in their decisions to stay. From the outside it is easy for us to say ,”Why doesn’t she just leave, she deserves better.”  But what we don’t look at is what the…
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While we would live to say the best way to stop verbal abuse is to never let it start in the first place, it really not that easy.  While it is an ideal statement for an ideal world it is…
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As a woman, I have suffered many types of abuse. I convinced myself at the time it was because I “loved” the man that I was with. I also thought in the beginning that I could help that person “change”….
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My abuse was mild compared to many but even so, it affected much of my life, both then and later on. Then, I was shocked and totally thrown when it happened. A much trusted friends of my parents – his…
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Why should women fight back when they are attacked? It was long believed that when a women was faced by an attacker, that they should cooperate and try to keep the perpetrator calm. Over time it has become clear that…
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 Despite stigma and stereotypes, anyone can become an abuser or a victim. The abuser is rarely the dark, brooding, alcoholic sadist Hollywood has painted a picture of.  The abused is not always a frail, quiet damsel in distress. In fact,…
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One of the problems with domestic violence is that victims of abuse have a tendency to recant their stories prior to trial.  Some people believe that they recant because the abuse didn’t really happen.  However, more often than not, this…
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Often, we hear of men who molest young girls and women and receive too little jail time or often, no penalty at all for their crimes. Tonight, on television was a story of a mother who was the co-abuser to…
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how does a person understand abuse victims? set aside any thought or preconcieved idea , set aside all you have read.. and open your heart to what you see ,hear,sense from one whos survived and relives those memories. to Understand?…
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