Friends and Peers

As you go through life you meet a number of people along the way that you get on well with and whose company you enjoy. Nevertheless you somehow lose contact and it is not always easy to find them again….
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It’s heart-wrenching to see a friend you care about suffer the worries and humiliations of a relationship that appears to be bad for them. Good friends wish to “do something”, and sometimes doing something is just what’s required. But there…
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Is it possible? I am still unsure. My first relationship in about three years was with this lad who was funny, intelligent, good looking and so special to me. The way we met was he was actually dating one of…
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It is often very difficult to know whether or not you should interfere in someone else’s life, even if that person does happen to be a close friend of yours. Relationships can be very complex, and sometimes what may appear…
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Maintaining relationships as an introvert can indeed be difficult at times. The very nature of introversion can seem completely alien to most people, and is often mistaken for indifference. If friends see your need to be alone, and to have…
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Sharing an apartment, a house or a condo can be difficult especially with friends. Sometimes you think you know someone well, but once you move in with them everything changes. Peoples little habits you know nothing about come to light….
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Wretched Me, Stop Playing off the Fool During a World Literature Course literature course I stumbled on this piece of Roman poetry. The pure power of the poem spoke to me in a way so strongly that immediately I was…
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As an introvert, I have gone through life always feeling the pressure of living in a society that favors group adhesion and the extroverted personalities. I have been very lucky in finding friends who were extroverts who love me enough…
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Have you ever thought to yourself, “I just want to stay home today”? Have you ever thought this on a Friday night or a weekend? Have you ever wondered why, if you chose to stay home and have some time…
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In behind the most popular social networking sites, such as Facebook and Myspace, comes an endless hoard of new social networking sites – but what do these sites have to offer that make them so different? In retaliation to the…
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Interfering With Relationships (Healthy or Not?) You suddenly hear shouting coming from the house next door. A woman is crying; children are screaming. You look out your window just to witness that very woman bolt from the house as her…
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Jane is becoming more and more withdrawn and secretive. She is suffering from financial problems, and is making more and more trips to ER with mysterious injuries. Her friend Erica suspects that Jane’s husband has a substance problem, but Jane…
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Friendship, by definition is the co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. Further, it connotes a relationship of mutual knowledge, esteem, affection and respect. (Wikipedia) Applicably, friendship involves a mutual attraction of thoughts or tastes, as well as…
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Deciding whether or not to interfere in a relationship is a very complicated question. First of all it is important to realize that in the end the final choice is your friend’s and that doing anything too radical may ultimately…
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When your responsibility to your friend exceeds your wish to remain uninvolved. One of the credos of my life has been to always do the things in such a way that I would not regret later. Sometimes choosing that path…
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You see your friend at the store with her husband. You start towards her to speak but before she see you, you hear her husband, “You are so stupid. I don’t know why I put up with you. It’s a…
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“A friend in NEED is a friend indeed.” Where should we draw a line between friendship and interference? How to identify when our friend needs us? We should be there for our friends but at the same time draw a…
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Do you have a friend who is in an unhealthy relationship? Perhaps her boyfriend is financially taking advantage of her. Or, maybe her husband is having an affair, and you have found out about it. It is difficult to see…
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RUNNING INTERFERENCE IN A FRIEND’S RELATIONSHIP Friendship is a wonderful thing, and if you can go through life and count your true friends on one hand (friends, not acquaintances), you are truly blessed. Some people keep the same friends for…
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You have seen it all before, so go ahead and stick your nose in there. Everyone wants your opinion, at least you think everyone wants your opinion. You’re the Svengali, able to see the future, and you are not about…
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Interfering has such a negative connotation. Asking if you should interfere in a friend’s unhealthy relationship, should really not be the question. The question should be, “Is your friendship strong enough and do you care enough about your friend?” From…
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We have all been in the situation when a dear friend is undergoing difficulties in their relationship. Although we may see quite clearly that the relationship is unhealthy, often our offers of help can be rebuffed and we end up…
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Inevitably, things change around us and as a result we change ourselves, as do our priorities. Sadly it is very rare for this to happen entirely in synch with those around us. Sometimes it turns out that trying to maintain…
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The temptation to confront rudeness with rudeness is not only understandable, it is often justified. I have certainly fallen into the “fight fire with fire” trap before with mixed results. Occasionally, the offending rude person has snapped back into shape…
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Knowing that you are reading this right now means you are alive, and in that case you deal with people you don’t like on a consistent basis. It happens to everyone. It’s not an easy situation to deal with, especially…
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Should ex-lovers be friends? Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest…
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The salesgirl that won’t get off the telephone to ring up your order at the checkout stand, the phone operator who simply won’t connect you to the manager you’ve repeatedly asked for after refusing to give you the advertised deal,…
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If you are fortunate to have friends from a different cultural background, and you desire to have them as guests, do not be intimidated into thinking you have to follow any ritual other than being a gracious host. The rules…
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Although cohabiting with another human being may seem like the most natural thing on this over-crowded planet, some roommates are oblivious to the apparent dos and don’ts when living together. Even if clear boundaries have been set, there is no…
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If, dear reader, you truly wants to know how to entertain guests of different cultural background, promise not to panic and do not be offended if they wonder about your skills in this matter. The lady across the street whom…
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