I did my dating long before the internet turned the practice into an international meat market. I met my wife in the basement laundry room of our large apartment building. Even 42 years later, she still claims it was love…
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January 20, 2015 Communication
Way back when I was in grad school, there were all kinds of theories being floated about body language. I forget the writer’s name, but one sage wrote books that described in great detail what each non-spoken gesture truly meant….
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The situations involved in online dating are not that different, whether you’re 18 or 80. Tips for online dating by those in sunset years are the same for people their sunrise years. All should enjoy the experience, while being careful…
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Hmmm. What to do if you strike out in speed dating? There’s always a tall building around for a dramatic launch into the air. Or, how about the old rock roped to your neck and jumping off a bridge routine?…
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A young Canadian computer geek named Markus claims he built the Plenty of Fish social introduction website at age 24 five years ago almost by mistake. He says he approached it as a way to familiarize himself with asp.net, a…
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I doubt if online date searching has made any major changes in the traditions of boy-girl relationships and the normal and/or abnormal biological urges involved. Thankfully, for the continuation of our particular species, no electronic doo-hickey has been able to…
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January 16, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
What’s happened to that handsome young guy you chose “for better or worse”? The excitement of marriage and honeymoon are long gone, and it’s clear that some things about him are more worse than better. Your darling husband squats there…
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In days of yore, before there were big-screen TV and NetFlix in people’s homes, date nights involved dinner out and going to the neighborhood movie house. They were important rituals in the romance process, and the guy was expected to…
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January 15, 2015 Crisis Support
During the last year of World War II, my battle station was as a talker on a 40mm gun mount aboard an attack transport. During a lull between bombardments just before we put Marines ashore, I sat on the rim…
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Las Vegas ain’t called Sin City for nothin’. Located within just a mile or two, mostly in the downtown area and along the famous main street called The Strip are at least a thousand places where singles can mingle, party,…
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When my son left home at 18 to attend a college 3,000 miles away from home, I said with enthusiasm, “Go to it, guy!” Three years later, when my 18-year-old daughter went away to attend college 400 miles away, I…
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My dad just didn’t feel comfortable telling us how to meet girls socially. He was a very strict, old-school kind of guy, but the best he could do was gather each of his sons when we were 12 or 13…
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There are very definite ways to read the signs that the lady fancies you, but is playing hard to get. How does a guy find out? Let me count the ways: She constantly refuses to go on a date with…
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The top ten most famous sayings from those wonderful family road trips that enhance love, togetherness and harmony: 1. Are we there yet?2. I have to go potty.3. If you keep spitting on your sister, I’ll stop this car and…
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We’re not that much different from other animals. We protect our young until they are ready to go out on their own. We nurture, teach and set examples of behavior for them, just as we see in families of tigers…
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Speed dating is the latest version of looking for love in cyberspace, something like what we used to do at the neighborhood bar, college dance or Starbuck’s. A person logs on to one of the hundreds of speed dating websites,…
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December 5, 2014 Communication
Why do so many of these titles bring on jokes? Maybe it is because we’re all very nervous when it comes to talking about sex with the one person who shares the experience. To ease the nervousness and reluctance a…
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December 5, 2014 Communication
I’m sure every woman who was thinking about a relationship was totally turned off by the guy making some incredibly stupid remark. Here are some of the more brain challenged. 1. “My ex-girlfriend and I really enjoyed this restaurant because…
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November 27, 2014 Friends and Peers
Finding new friends on the internet is a little like your childhood fantasies of imaginary friends. Those good buddies only you could see, to discuss your deepest feelings and maybe sit around your little dining table an have a cup…
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November 19, 2014 Skin and Body
First of all, any young person who gets tattoos is an idiot. That said, I can remember when I first saw heavily-tattooed men, except maybe in movies showing a circus freak sideshows. I had just graduated from Navy boot camp…
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Our intentions were very positive when we invited my elderly mother to come live with us. We thought we could help her, give her daily companionship, while she could do brief babysitting chores with our two kids. Now, nearly 40…
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Independence is an important human need, and when aging and increasing physical limitations threaten to interfere with it, we may feel depressed and forgotten. After lifetimes of physical, financial and mental independence, most elderly parents appreciate the help offered by…
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An adult child should feel some responsibility to parents, particularly when the parents are elderly and may need help. The degree of responsibilty can vary according to circumstances. Basically, when the adult child has a family of young children of…
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November 11, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Keeping the romance going when you were first married was easy. Just the two of you in your own private love nest, it was all romance and roses. You swore to each other that no one could ever come between…
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There’s a whole range of first-date mistakes you should avoid. Unfortunately, most of them you’ll see encouraged in the latest movie and TV romances. However, if you’re aware of the realities you must face in your own life, your first…
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Seniors who get together for a first date may not be as popular in song, film and TV as young couples. However, as Frank Sinatra’s lyrics to “The Second Time Around” declared: “It’s that second time you hearYour love…
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First date? What are we talking about here? A hermit who’s been living in a cave for 65 years, who finally shaves his beard, takes a bath, and now he’s out in the real world looking for some companionship? Or…
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Body language as it applies to dating is often referred to as a kind of mating dance, and may include many kinds of physical movements. Anyone can observe this atavistic male-female ritual in every situation from a primitive tribal ceremony…
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Most people go into a summer romance with wide open eyes. If they’re totally realistic, they’ll expect the hot relationship to cool off by autumn. However, there’s always a chance, after a long, hot summer tryst, that you’ll decide to…
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Couples who have a newly-established warm relationship don’t have to stay indoors when cold weather arrives. They can make the situation even warmer by doing some fun things together. And as winter is about to arrive, as the song lyrics…
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