What Men want
The news on the street is that men gawk, whistle and make appreciative comments when they see a woman who they think is physically attractive. Visual images are the first to make an impact and they certainly stimulate men to…
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Author Archive: Elizabeth Rogers
Tips on Dealing with Manipulative People
September 18, 2015 Communication
Stand still, grit your teeth and hold your ground. Manipulation is learned behavior that has been rewarded with short term, self-satisfying results. The term itself carries a negative connotation, and it is a destructive force in healthy relationships. If one…
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Dating Etiquette
In the past, “dating” was a term that was synonomous with “courting” and it had an exclusive nature to it, even in its begining stages. Words like “lady” and “gentleman” were defined in terms of motive and action, not simpy…
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How to Break up with a Friend
August 24, 2015 Friends and Peers
The word,”friend”, is used to define an active, mutually satisfying relationship. Nobody breaks up with a friend; they cease trying to make something happen between themselves and someone else that once resulted in shared joy. As we come to terms…
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Gay and Lesbian Issues
In determining the reasons behind the judgement of gays and lesbians, it is helpful to take into account that generally what is meant by judging is the holding of opinions other than what are desired by the group of people…
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Nagging and why it is Ineffective
Nagging is the use of repetitive, unchanging, uninspiring words aimed at another person in order to get them to do something that they, obviously, are not in a hurry to do. It may, in fact, be the nagging that is…
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How to Form a Lasting Relationship
The first way to keep someone next to you is to be the kind of person someone WANTS to be next to. The second thing to do is choose to be emotionally closest to people who like to be close…
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Is it Acceptable for a Parent to Vent to their Kids about the other Parent – No
When one person addresses an issue with anyone other than the one he/she is upset with, it is called “triangulation”. This is a passive/aggressive way of dealing with problems and it rarely ever accomplishes anything except for making things worse….
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Are Parents Responsible for how their Children Act as Adults – No
Parents contribute significantly to the shaping of a child’s inner sense of security, value system and assumed response to the challenges and successes of life, but they cannot be held fully responsible for that adult-child’s behavior. Adulthood, in society’s view,…
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Funerals and Families – Yes
Everyone is dying. This may not be earth shattering news to anyone, but the point is, they all value having the privilege of making choices, and most people have to adjust some of their desires to the group of people they live…
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Family Dynamics
Differences are what make a relationship a “relationship”. If there was nothing that I had to compromise on with my husband and children, I would be a dictator and likely avoided as much as possible. I love differences. They make…
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Friendship Issues
March 14, 2015 Friends and Peers
The best way to handle a backstabbing person is to turn around and show them your face, so to speak. If you have heard something unkind or untrue that has been spoken behind your back by someone you are in a relationship…
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Why do People tell Lies
February 18, 2015 Communication
People tell lies when something is more important to them than the integrity of their character. The list of perceived benefits of withholding the truth is long, including: peer group standing, avoiding hurt, escaping accountability and/or discipline, political advantage, feelings…
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Improving Relationships
Opening up emotionally involves a willingness to face pain and deal with issues in relationships. In general, people are more self-protective than they would like to admit and fairly quick to look for an escape route out of a tight…
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Friendship
January 5, 2015 Friends and Peers
Outgrowing friendships is an idea that exists only in some peoples’ minds. Friends are not like clothes that are too well-worn for one person, perhaps acceptable to another or maybe fit only for the throw-away pile. People change and sometimes…
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Should it be Compulsory for Couples to Sign a Prenuptial Agreement before – No
August 25, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Prenuptial agreements make a statement of mistrust, no matter how practical they may sound. If anything should be compulsory for couples to have before they wed, it is marriage counseling. Counseling tends to reveal the challenges that may lie ahead…
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