November 16, 2015 Crisis Support
Not one person experiences grief in exactly the same way. Though most experience the stages for grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance, there is no time limit or exact order individuals will experience their grief. It is personal and…
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October 22, 2015 Crisis Support
No one should have to experience a life altering event alone. The death of a loved one changes one world, and sometimes our perspective on the world almost immediately. Life assumptions are shattered as we face the reality of the…
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September 17, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
For the purpose of this article I am going to assume “cheating” is referring to infidelity. With that noted, in my humble opinion I will say, the internet not only encourages cheating, it makes it perhaps more of an issue,…
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September 3, 2015 Crisis Support
Preparation for discussing imminent death truly begins well before you are faced with having to tell children about the pending death or death of a loved one. If you have had the time, for instance during a terminal illness, you…
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August 19, 2015 Friends and Peers
“We do not know the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop there is at last a drop which makes the heart run over.” James Boswell (1740-1795) Every so often an angel walks…
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July 18, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
I asked this very question several years ago, during a class I was taking at the Unity Church I attended. That weeks “lesson” was on forgiveness and at about that same time I was in the midst of therapy to…
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Sexual abuse is a form of trauma one simply will never “get over.” However, there are ways to gradually, over time, take back that has been stolen, take back your life and live.Abuse of any kind is about power. The…
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One of the many symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is the recurrence of nightmares or night terrors. It is not uncommon for the mind to rework abuse and trauma while in the altered state of sleep in order to…
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Who doesn’t like to hear how wonderful they are and what a genius they are at all they do? Everyone wants “warm fuzzies” and positive feedback, but with the good often comes the not so good. Others, especially bosses, always…
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Moving on from a history of childhood abuse is a step by step process. It involves above all patience with yourself and the willingness to allow your feelings without judgment. This is by no means an easy task but with…
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Been there, done that; not interested it doing it again. Once upon a time I thought I would find the right person, settle down with nice house and have my 2.3 kids and a dog. Well, four outta five ain’t…
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February 19, 2015 Crisis Support
No matter what the age of the child, when a parent experiences the death of their offspring, the world forever changes. Truly giving support to a parent who has lost a child to death means being there for them, hearing…
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February 1, 2015 Crisis Support
Patience. Patience. Patience. Grief is not a time specific experience. It is an on-going process that shifts, changes, gets better, regresses, and eases again. There is a distinct process that has been found to be true since first outlined by…
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January 15, 2015 Crisis Support
Your grief is yours, no one else will experience the loss in exactly the same way you will, first and foremost, do not judge yourself or allow judgment upon you as to the correct way to grieve nor the duration….
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October 27, 2014 Communication
If you believe in an ultimate power, a single source of all creation, no matter what name you give it, you have undoubtedly prayed to it, beseeching it to provide for a need, cure an illness of yours or some…
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The term “Mother” is a term we usually use to describe the person who gave birth to us, raised us. The woman, most times, married to our father and who cooked, cleaned and “took care” of us. But none of…
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When the physical acts of abuse stopped, I was 11 years old. When the emotional acts of abuse stopped I was 37. When the pain of my history of abuse stopped I was, well I will let you know when…
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Time, patience, unconditional love and above all refraining from judgment, are the keys to helping anyone through the grief process. It is in our nature to rush to the side of family and friends when there is a significant loss…
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The Stonewall Riots in 1969 were not the beginning of the gay rights movement as many have thought. The Daughters of Bilitis or DOB was the first lesbian rights organization in the United states. In the 1950’s there few options…
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November 26, 2013 Crisis Support
The mirror deep within ourselves that reflects our imagined world perception of who we are, is so easily clouded, cracked and sometimes even shattered. One act of injustice can leave us picking up broken pieces for years. As we fumble…
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