The mother, father, and children constitute the family in a marriage. Each parent is equally responsible for the care of the children. We as a society have put defined obligations of each parent in reference to the children. That has…
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I write this in anger and despair at the archaic system we use in the main throughout the so called civilised world with regard to who should get custody of the children in the event of a marital breakdown. The…
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Not very many people think about the repercussions of divorce upon the children. Often it is characterized as a sad separation of two former lovers, but what about the kids? The children will be losing the importance of at least…
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My parents divorced just prior to my tumultuous teen years. I can honestly say that I never saw it coming. I do recall a few rather intense arguments, usually in the wee hours of the morning. But I believe that…
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When lines are drawn in the sand and an army of lawyers line up with two parents on the battlefield of divorce, it is usually the children that fall into the cross hairs of the sniping combatants. A judge may…
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He’d been gone for a very long time, her Dad. He left when she was four, the earliest memory is her standing with her back against her parent’s bedroom closet door crying, as Daddy packed and Mom screamed and cried….
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It can be challenging to prepare your children for divorce.  Obviously things will change, sometimes as significantly as a parent or even them moving far away.  You will want to be very gentle when helping your children through this difficult…
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Nothing should come between a biological parent and their children.  Unfortunately, however, sometimes people do.  Your ex’s new girlfriend or boyfriend may see themselves as a better parent than you are, and you find yourself fighting with them just to…
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No you should not and for a really good reason. You’re hurting them even more in such ways you don’t even see. For another you are hurting yourself as well. The hurt even trickles down to family and friends. Then…
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Divorce is never easy, no matter what side you’re on.  Throw children into the mix and it gets even harder.  Many parents do their best to make sure that their chidlren are affected as little as possible by the divorce. …
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The answer is “Yes”, and sometimes, on rare occasion the answer could be “NO”.I am going for the most of the time, where the father is assumed to be of soundmind and body, and able to be of use. Yes,…
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Allowing a child to chose whom they want to live with has to be looked at from several different angels.  Are both parents responsible? Are the parents remarried? If so how is the relationship between the children and the step…
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I was the youngest of four children when my parents decided to divorce. I was six years old at the time ,and I can tell you from first hand experience,that for quite some time before they made that decision and…
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It is hard enough when you find out that your spouse that you thought that you would spend the rest of your life with is having an affair and now you have to process your own emotions and how you…
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When a couple divorces, there are many assets that must be split.  There are finances, debts, property, children… Wait, children?  Children can’t be split down the middle like some piece of property.  These are living, breathing, beings that are a…
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How you respond to your ex.’s new spouse goes a long way to building a positive relationship with that new person in your children’s life or alienating them from wanting to deal with you at all. Finding a positive way to…
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Unfortunately, too many of us become ourselves after marriage. After months or years of dating, we get married and we finally can let our true colors show. During the dating process, we are on our best behavior. We are interested…
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What makes a marriage work?  How long is my marriage going to last? How do I know I’m marring the right person?  These are just a few of the many questions that go through your mind when you are getting ready…
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I am a single mother of three children. When I divorced my ex-husband I never denied him of our children. He proved to be a good father from the first time he saw our son. I would not be the…
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“If I can just love him enough, then I know he will change.” My husband would choke me, push me, pull my hair, leave bruises, cuts, and scratches on my body, many times he threatened to kill me. But he…
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Face the facts; if you are serious about creating no adverse effects on your children because of the differences the two of you are experiencing, you will first of all work at resolving your problems. Counseling is important and could…
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Is your relationship reaching a point of monotony doing the same routine activities and producing less satisfying memories? Relationships are a shared experience and to keep the fires burning the idea of having fun and “bringing sexy back” to enhance…
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Should Parents With Irreconcilable Differences Remain Together for the Sake of the Children? More than ten years ago I left the residence I shared with the mother of my children.  It was not a difficult decision then, but I often…
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