Look for the Fear Behind Other People’s Attempts to Control You Instead of getting irritated with someone who tries to control you, try to understand the fear that motivates that person’s behaviour. If you can soothe those fears, the control…
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The Time For a Divorce? The title itself sounds too easy as if, deciding when a relationship is over, is anything except an easy conclusion. Marriage for me is a long one, but with divorce rate being high, it is…
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Assuming your sanity was intact before the creepingdread, which lurked in the back of your mind, came tothe forefront. You must now face the reality that youweren’t being paranoid and you can no longer pretend,there’s nothing wrong. Maintaining your sanity…
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Divorce. The Big D. Webster defines divorce as, “the action or an instance of legally dissolving a marriage.” I am facing a divorce in the coming weeks, but the legal wrangling has not even started yet. It’s not something I…
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Rules for Separation seems like an oxymoron. Since when does anything in life come with a manual? And most particularly the painful experiences, do not come with any rules. It seems like it is a ‘winner take all’ mentality that…
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Being the ex in-law is still the same for me. The break up of the relationship changes nothing but the sex between him and I. I am still very much welcome to everyone homes. My ex in-laws still introduces me…
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Who am I? For the last 8 years, I knew who I was. It was an easy question. I was quite simply a husband and a father. That defined me, so making decisions in life was pretty easy. What to…
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How to cope with the depression that comes from separation, divorce and widowhood Depression is a constant theme in separation, divorce and widowhood. It is fuelled by low self-esteem and guilt. Depression is often the flip side of anger on…
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“There is no such thing as a painless divorce unless it wasn’t much of a marriage to begin with.” The initial period of shock lets you build up the strength to face the pain. Relief and disbelief have been called…
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Dating as a single parent can be one of the most challenging things you can ever try to do. As a single parent, you still have the same needs and desires as you did as a married person, but you…
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Grieving the loss of a marriage is as natural as grieving the death of a loved one. Part of your life has been removed. Death and divorce have the same stages of emotional grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance….
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When people don’t make it a point to define them, the rules of separation can seem vague and confusing. Some couples separate to solve their problems with much-needed space, while others break up completely, but still have common ground (e.g.,…
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There is no specific formula for moving on after the difficulty of a divorce. Living in a separate house from your former spouse does not always mean you have truly moved on with your life. Usually, there are emotional ties…
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The entire time I was married, everything and I mean EVERYTHING was hush hush. I remember being kicked under the dinner table at family dinners, for things I would say, (by my then husband). At my house at family dinners…
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During a marriage most goals and accomplishments are shared as a couple. Sometimes people lose track of their individual strengths because everything as been done as a team. Now is the time to take a look inside and rediscover your…
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As you navigate your way through all the difficulties of divorce, expect to go through several stages before you reach a place of acceptance and healing. – You will experience shock and denial, which may make you feel your life…
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When I married for the first time I was immediately brought with open arms into a massive family. My then husband had five siblings and they all had children. It was a dream come true for me because my immediate…
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