Author Archive: Elaine M. Doxie

Alimony is a controversial subject. There are some people who would have it outlawed completely. There are others who rely on it and expect that if they have been married for a given length of time they will get it….
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Pro se divorce litigation refers to a person who represents themselves in court.  A lot of people see it as a way to save money, however, if you are involved in a highly contested divorce, you may want to reconsider…
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Divorce mediation can be a very useful tool if both parties are willing to compromise.  If, however, even one party is unable to compromise, the whole thing can fall apart.  Mediation, if possible, is a much less expensive and less confrontational method…
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Ideally, all divorces would be a 50/50 split with no need for any negotiation at all.  Unfortunately, we do not live in an ideal world.  If you are in a high conflict divorce, you have no choice but to play…
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Most people have at least a few friends that are not particularly healthy for the marriage.  It may be the man-hater down the street that thinks all men are pond scum because her ex left her for her best friend. …
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Children have a hard time when their parents divorce, no matter how you slice it.  They tend to blame themselves, although if anything, it usually was for the sake of the children that the marriage lasted as long as it did. …
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Parenting is difficult in any situation, but add in divorce, and you have a whole new ballgame.  You have two parents who, in many cases, can barely stand each other, and a child or children that belong to both of…
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There are very few people who have not heard that continuing to date your spouse is good for your marriage.  Yet, in spite of all the warnings and encouragement, sometimes dating gets put on hold after you are married.  After…
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Child support often winds up being one of the most contentious issues in divorce.  The sad part is that it’s not necessarily because the person that is asked to pay doesn’t want to help take care of their children.  It’s…
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There is only one reason to have an amicable divorce.  It creates less stress.  Any other reasons are directly related to that one simple fact.  It creates less stress for you.  It creates less stress for your children.  It creates…
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Imagine that you see a couple fighting in front of their children.  The children are cowering and trying not to cry, and the parents don’t even seem to notice.  You are seething inside, wanting to confront these two people for…
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Everyday across America people are getting divorced from people they were once happy with, and people they have had children with.  In far too many of those divorces, children are used as weapons against the other parent.  Although the stereotype…
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When there is a divorce, especially a high conflict divorce, there is a tendency to be anger on all sides, including the children.  They may feel betrayed by the parent who is leaving.  They may feel anger toward the parent…
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In today’s society, showing respect for your spouse often seems as if it is a lost art. You have long heard spouses talking about the “old ball and chain,” and so on, likening marriage to being in prison. Unfortunately, this…
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Domestic abuse is not easy to prove in court. Part of the problem is that many incidents have not been reported along the way, making it difficult to prove a pattern of abuse.  Another problem is that most abusers can…
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