I don’t think stay at home moms get nearly the appreciation or recognition they deserve! Being a stay at home mom has been one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever done. I think my life was easier when I was still working full-time outside job and then coming home to take care of the children and housework. Being a stay at home mom is a full-time job, and it’s definitely got it’s rewards, but in a lot of ways, it’s a thankless job as well. I don’t get a paycheck every week, every few weeks, or even once a month.
Staying at home full-time is stressful for me, because I miss the regular adult contact and conversation I had when working an outside job for a paycheck. Working moms often look down on me, and imply that my job is inferior to theirs, simply because I don’t earn a paycheck!
Don’t get me wrong, being a stay at home mom has been very rewarding in many ways as well, but it’s definitely not been easy. I am with my children 24- hours a day, 7 days a week, it’s hard to stay organized, it’s hard to keep up with them full-time. I find myself procrastinating on housework and other things, because, I’m here day in and day out. But, I am here with my children, and the bond I have with them is absolutely amazing, and better than it’s ever been. My husband is comforted in the fact that I am here to take care of anything that may come up, and that our children aren’t being left with a non-family member, I can keep up with housework better, and he knows that I can handle it.
But stay at home moms are definitely not respected as much as moms who work full-time outside the home, we don’t get a lot of recognition for all that we do, and it seems that our husbands and families tend to take us for granted more often. It’s often assumed by my husband and children, that, because I’m home, I’ll take care of whatever it is that needs to be done, whether they are capable of doing it themselves or not.
Many marriages have been strained due to a mother staying home full-time with her children, because men see things differently than women do. Men often base their self-worth on their ability to provide for their families and the paychecks they bring in, when they use that scale to measure, then a stay at home mom is obviously going to fall short in their eyes.
The only people who have any real respect or understanding for what a stay at home mom does, is another stay at home mom. Before you pre-judge whether a stay at home mom really has it “easy” or not… Think of all she does; housekeeping, child care, paying bills and running errands (often with cranky children in tow!), cooking, laundry, etc. If we were to be paid for everything we do, our yearly wages would rival that of some of the biggest money-makers in the world… Stay at home moms are worth their weight in gold. It would cost far more to hire someone to do all that we do, than it does for us to do it.
Before you decide whether or not you should appreciate the stay at home moms that you know, think about this; Could you handle doing everything they do in a day, get up and do it again the next day, day in and day out? If the answer is no, or doesn’t come as easily as you thought… Then maybe you should appreciate stay at home moms more. We do it because we love our husbands and children, and we know we don’t recieve a paycheck, but we’re not worried about getting a paycheck. We try to ensure our job is done, and done well. That’s a lot on anyone’s plate.