Until the modern era, women were stereotyped as the homemaker, mother, and nurturer of her husband. There were no rights given to a woman that were exactly equivalent to a man. Suddenly, things changed for women and the world gazed upon woman with new eyes. As a woman, you could vote, drive a car, and even gain employment! While it was a relieving change, some women still choose to be stay-at-home-moms and homemakers. There’s no fancy title you will receive, nor any corporate benefits or quarterly pay raises, but you are wonderful for making such a commitment to your family, and if ever a title of recognition should ever be imagined, it should bear your name.
Stay-at-home-moms can feel somewhat sheltered from the needs and demands of the busy working world. Tireless hours of raising decent, happy, human beings, washing a mountain of laundry for the fourth time in one day, and keeping a clean home a happy one, can really feel hum-drum after a while. As a woman, wife, and mother, you feel a lacking presence illuminating your conscience like a million fireflies. How to be a fulfilled homemaker takes a lot of work, but it is within reach.
Probably, the root of many conflicts that occur in your relationship, and you just don’t realize it. Sexual tension recoils after a period, and eventually feels the need for release. To find fulfillment as a homemaker and stay-at-home-mom, you have to glance around often to find ways to ease the tension. Make it a point to indulge in intimacy as often as you can with your spouse/partner. Be spontaneous, be open to new ideas, and be open to feel the need of being desired. Intimacy alone can give you a fulfilling boost, and help smooth the edges in some sharp relationship issues. Try being “old school” and toss in some love notes, “do you love me, I love you” notes around the house, or make out on the couch like you did when you were younger, and try not to get busted by the kids.
Imagine, fifteen years from now, you are going to look back at your life. Call it reminiscing, call it reflecting, but either way, you’re looking back. Weigh the pros and cons of being a stay-at-home-mom and homemaker against the pros and cons of joining the workforce. Now, thinking ahead, what would you miss most; listening to everybody’s stories that two married co-workers are having an affair, or hearing your children’s stories about the monster in the closet that only appears at nap and bedtime? Knowing that you are there for the most important things in your family’s life can provide fulfillment like nothing else can.
When you come to the realization that you are the hub of your family, you will be overcome with fulfilling joy. Not to say it isn’t a little intimidating looking at the multitude of pressure and responsibility you experience, but it gives you a deep sense of self-worth and appreciation. Look at what you are accomplishing each day as a stay-at-home-mom and homemaker: providing continuous support, love, and care for your family, maintaining a clean, healthy environment in which to satisfactorily facilitate everyone’s needs, keeping tabs on appointments that are the keys to promoting good health, and much more. Realizing the importance of the demanding labor of love you are administering every day is amazing, and you should feel absolute pride.
As a stay-at-home-mom, you are going to have concerns and moments of feeling like what you do isn’t enough. It’s normal and healthy to feel these emotions and concerns. A perfect existence would be terribly dull, and life’s greatest lessons would never be learned. Fulfillment can be found in the most simple aspects of your daily life if you look within yourself for it. Remember, you are a treasured gift to the world by doing all the wonderful things you do, mom. Life can only defeat your spirit if you let it, and as a stay-at-home-mom and homemaker, defeat will never be an option you consider.