You can’t make anyone fall in love with anyone else. When reading this article title, I’m reminded of a scene in Walt Disney’s Aladdin. When the Genie lists all his rules of the three wishes, one of the rules was that he couldn’t make anyone fall in love with anyone else. Whenever the Genie asks Aladdin about his wishes and what he wanted, Aladdin starts off with “See, there’s this girl…”. The Genie again reminds Aladdin that he can’t make anyone fall in Love. So then, Aladdin wishes to be a Prince, so that his Princess Jasmine might fall in love with him. The story of Aladdin and Jasmine is rather true to life, and has a lot of good points.
You can’t make anyone fall in love with anyone else. And even if you could persuade them to love you, if you have to use false pretenses to get them to love you, your relationship is destined for trouble! (For those of you who’ve seen Aladdin, remember all the trouble that Jafar was able to cause for Aladdin and Jasmine, simply because Aladdin was unwilling to tell the truth about who he really was?) If you can’t trust that the person would love you exactly as you are, why would you want to persuade them to fall in love with you? Why would you want to “make” anyone fall in love with you, if they don’t already love you of their own free will?
You can, however, be yourself. Be open to experiences with that person, be open and honest with him, and give him the CHOICE of falling in love with you. I guarantee that a relationship built on honesty, is a lot better than a relationship built on dishonesty or coercion, and is likely to stand up to trials and last a lifetime. You can’t make a man (or a woman, for that matter!) fall in love. It just isn’t possible to make someone do something that they don’t want to do or to feel something that they don’t.
You can be open and honest, be yourself, and let the man know that you’d like to pursue a further relationship. But don’t try to force it. Chances are, if it doesn’t feel right to one person, then it won’t feel right to both of you. If you feel you need to “make” him fall in love with you, then perhaps you should re-evaluate what love really means and whether or not what you are feeling is love, or just infatuation.
Bottom line, you can’t make a man fall in love, anymore than you can control the weather. So you’re better off not trying.