On saying i Love you

Mark Twain once wrote that love, is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. And one could stop there and call it a job; however, in his book The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis used over 120 pages in a lovely discussion about Love.’ He began by separating love into the four words the Greeks assigned to the lone English word, love’, and these are, Agape, or selfless love, God’s love for mankind and His creation; Stogre, or affection, that which everyone has in varying degrees for parents and offspring; Philia, brotherly love, love which we reserve for our friends and neighbors; and, Eros, or erotic love romantic love, which needs no further explanation. He then divided love into two separate classes, gift-love and need-love. Tom T. Hall wrote and sang that he loved everything form, little fuzzy pups, to onions and beer. Paul, the apostle did such an eloquent job of defining love that, today, two thousand years later, people still use it in wedding vows, but, do the people speaking these vows truly understand what they are saying? A good thesaurus has more than twenty different synonyms for love, so, to ask a question about the importance of saying you love and expect anyone, educated or not to come up with a reasonable definition is a little overwhelming. And, of the thirty plus responses I’ve read, none of them deal with LOVE, they deal more with saying you love someone and the importance of saying it to those people for whom you feel a certain attachment or love. Yes, it is important to say it, but it is infinitely more important to SHOW it and that is accomplished through actions that reinforce your words. Even though those actions might be interpreted by that special someone as meaning you don’t actually love them.
Any child will say, “If you loved me you’d ______!”(Fill in the blank with the current need or desire, which, at the moment, is giving that special someone the idea that you don’t love them.). Husbands and wives have been known to make special requests of each other prefaced by the very same childish words, “If you loved me you’d ______!” (run naked through this theater!).

What good is saying you love someone if your actions show the exact opposite, isn’t it a matter of interpretation? Or, is it simply that none of us is mature enough to understand what love is

Saying I love you, is good for the people you love, but showing you love them is good for both of you. Love is something that grows paradoxically, the more you give the more you have to give. Why, in God’s name, would anyone want to hold that which is impossible to describe adequately!

Love is an itch that can’t be scratched. Love is mentally running naked through a theater because someone asked you to. Love is a mental condition which affects your every physical reaction.

Say you love them if you must, but they won’t believe you, if what they interpret as loverun naked through this theateris the one thing you withhold from them

And if you must hear it repeat after me I Love You!